Confidence Tip #1-Physical

Rachel Hollis, NYTimes bestselling author, explains in her newest novel, Girl Stop Apologizing, that Self-Confidence is a SKILL that one is able to gain through dedication and commitment to working on oneself. Many people are blessed with self-confidence at birth, and I truly envy those people. It has taken me about 30 years to develop a strong confidence foundation within myself emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. I’m elated to finally share with you my #1 tip for boosting physical confidence.

I truly believe that if you want to enhance your physical confidence, you have to FIRST set a specific and manageable goal for yourself. You also need to plan out a personal schedule for achieving your physical goal. How many hours a week will you work towards achieving your goal? What’s the date or time frame that you want to achieve your goal by?
Buy a Planner from the local Dollar Tree to track each time you worked towards your physical goal. This holds you accountable. It might at first appear overwhelming, but that’s everything you try new.

I ran my first half-marathon in January of this year. The victorious sensation of crossing that finish line, after brutally preparing for three months, was a feeling that I’ll NEVER forget. I truly felt that I was invincible, and could conquer the world. That feeling was so incredible that I couldn’t wait to experience it again(which is why I’m signed up for the Pittsburgh half-marathon in a couple weeks). My plan for conquering my half-marathon goal was simply to download a running schedule off google, plan my weekly runs around my crazy schedule, and track each run in my cheap planner. I also tried to drink as much water as possible. I joined a local running group, Bridgeport Road Warriors, and made many friends which helped hold me accountable. It’s often easy to back out on yourself, but when you’re committed to someone or something, it’s more unlikely.

In less that 6 months, my beautiful Mother lost 55 pounds(more weight than my 5 year old son). Mary Randolph is a 100% full-blooded Italian woman that’s entire life revolves around food. Every single morning at about 6AM for 18 years, my Mother would ask me what I wanted for dinner. My reply would often be, “I want water because I’m still dehydrated from last night!!” Mary is the BEST cook I know, and her food is made with love and passion. How at 65, was my Mom able to change her obsession for food, and lose the weight so drastically? The answer is a strong commitment to the Weight Watchers program.

Mary taught herself how to track every meal using the Weight Watchers Point App. She made sure that EVERY Thursday, she went to meetings, and weighed in at the local facility. Everytime she lost a pound, her W.W. support group cheered for her. She even received pins after each milestone of weight loss.

I’m a very proud daughter because not ONLY was my Mom able to reach her goal weight, but she also walked her goal distance last month. A year ago, my Mom was lucky if she could walk a quarter of a mile. However last month, she walked 3.2 MILES at a local park full of hills. The confidence she gained from achieving her first weight loss goal transferred to her new goal of walking a particular distance. That’s the remarkable thing about goal setting, once you achieve your goal, you keep creating new ones. It becomes a healthy addictive behavior.

Mary is truly an inspiration for others and proof that at 65 years old, you can still achieve your physical goals. Our success stories are a little different, but have two common factors. We both wanted to change something physical about ourselves, and we both followed a simple plan for achieving our goals.


Imagine what physical goal you, yourself can achieve in three or six months. I can guarantee that when you master this goal, your confidence level will grow tremendously, and you’ll too be hooked on boosting your physical confidence.

Let’s change the world one smile at a time!

✌️💛 Leigha

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First and foremost, I’m a Christ lover and follower 🙏. I’m a dedicated single mother of two children, A.J. (5) and Martina (3) 👫. A hard-working, passionate 4th Grade Reading and Writing teacher at a Public Elementary School ✏️📓. I’m a book nerd, life-coach obsessor/follower, avid runner/fitness enthusiast 💦, and coffee addict☕️. I'm a survivor of trauma, but refuse to let it define my identity.

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